We're in the final weeks you guys!!!!!!!!!!!!! All that's left is to set a court date!!!!!!!!!! Its been a long road, but we're closing in on the end of it... or at least the end of the adoption process. The parenting road has just begun.
There were so many heart wrenching moments that we feared we'd lose our Munchkin. We weren't sure if adoption was even going to be a possibility. We worried about the fate of our little man and all of the potential scenarios that he might face. The hardest part was that there was nothing we could do about it. All we could do is love him as much as we could and for as long as the State of Texas would allow us to. Now we get to celebrate becoming his forever family!!!!
The sweetest part to me, is that he has no idea how monumental this date will be. He has no idea that he isn't already legally ours. He has no idea that another life, a much different life, could have been laid before him. He won't have the wounds and scars that he might have had. He will never know the fear and uncertainty of bouncing around in the foster care system. He won't be a long term victim of abuse and neglect. I love that he has no clue how exciting all of this is! Ignorance is bliss in this particular situation.
There's one thing that's bothered me for a while though... People are always saying how great it is what we're doing for him, and I do understand what they mean, but it just doesn't sound right to me. Its not as though Munchkin should be more grateful to us than Jackson should be. And lets be honest, no kid is truly grateful to their parents until they are parents themselves. We chose to take multiple roads and methods when building our family and we did it on purpose. Munchkin is going to reap the benefits of that decision in the long term scheme of things, but it doesn't mean he owes us anything in return. We don't feel as though there is really a difference between the two in how much love there is for each of our boys.
Like I said, I know that's not what people mean, but I would like to make a request. Munchkin is getting older and understanding more and more of what we say. We don't want him to grow up feeling as though he's subject to our charitable generosity, or that he's not really ours, or that he doesn't really belong. My fear is that comments like this in front of him will eventually make him feel that way even though it isn't true. Please be mindful of what you say in front of him. He's my baby as much as Jackson is. If you wouldn't say it about Jackson, please don't say it about Munchkin.
To leave you on a lighter note... Get ready for Facebook to blow up with more than a years worth of Munchkin pictures in the next month or two!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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